Struggling to find the perfect words for your toast? Here’s how…
1. Keep it short, sweet and simple
The wedding speeches can be one of the most beautiful and emotional parts of a wedding day, but they can just as easily be the most boring. Our first top tip is to keep your toast to around 5 minutes or less. Trust us, 5 minutes might not sound like a lot, but it will feel a lot longer than you realise.
When writing your speech, it’s important to make every sentence count. Don’t bore guests with irrelevant details, keep things punchy. Aim for your toast to be playful, funny and enjoyable, with a touch of heartfelt emotion. We’d suggest kicking things off by introducing yourself and telling the guests how you know the Bride and Groom. Follow this up with a couple of comical anecdotes about the Bride or Groom, but be wary of who’s in the room and try not to embarrass them too much! The last thing you want is to upset the Bride or Groom’s grandparents…
Add a sentimental touch by noting why the Bride or Groom make such a great couple, or perhaps by offering a few words of advice to the newlyweds on their future together.
Finally, make sure you end your speech by asking the guests to raise their glasses to the Bride and Groom, and toast their future together. Cheers!
2. Get creative
Speaking in front of a big crowd isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. If you’re nervous about your speech, remember a picture can say a thousand words, so get a little creative with photos and home movies. A slideshow or video of some kind is a great way to take some of the attention off of you, whilst keeping the entertainment value of a really great speech, all in a way that shows the Bride and Groom how much you really care. Sounds like a win, win, win to us!
But remember, if you do decide to go down this route, it will take some careful preparation. Not only will you likely have to chase a handful of different people for photos and video clips, you will also have to plan ahead for technical issues. Make sure a projector is set up at the venue before hand, and have a member of staff on hand to help should anything go wrong.
3. Keep calm On the day
The best way to stay calm and make sure your nerves don’t get the best of you is to practice your speech a couple of times before the big day. But, don’t put a huge amount of pressure on yourself to learn the entire speech word-for-word. As long as you remember the key points, give yourself the freedom to speak from the heart and improvise a little. The speech will run much smoother and feel a little more genuine, this way.
You can use a copy of your speech or a set of notes on the day, to prompt yourself if you start to get lost or stumble on your words at all. If this does happen, don’t panic. Take a moment to find your place again, make a light hearted joke out of it and carry on.
We would definitely recommend looking up at the Bride and Groom and their guests throughout your speech. Seeing their smiles and laughter will be so rewarding, and will spur you on.
Finally, before you start your toast, be sure to take a deep breath and just enjoy the moment!